Reasons and Excuses, Bali Edition

My grandfather used to say “reasons are not excuses,” meaning that just because you have a reason, don’t expect that to function as an excuse to relieve you of the consequences of your actions.

PassportI used to plan our family vacations down to the gnat’s eyelash.  For each trip I would make a binder that functioned as a detailed and personalized travel guide.  It contained our e-tickets, hotel bookings, tourist destinations, and local transportation options (such as how to  get to our hotel from the airport).  I learned enough Italian to get by in Italy.  I listened to the radio on the internet to polish up my rusty German.

As soon as our son went away to college, something strange happened.  My obsessive travel planning suddenly ceased.  My first experience of this was when we went to San Diego to visit him.  We just got in the car are headed south.  No reservations, nothing.

I cannot explain this change in behavior.  Were we two cool empty-nesters (like that could ever be a thing) trying to reclaim our faded, carefree youth?

Now, with a friend staying in Bali, we thought why not go visit her.  My planning for this trip consisted of 1) purchasing tickets and 2) waiting for the appointed departure day to arrive.

Then a few days ago my planning gene expressed itself, albeit weakly.  Better do a little planning I thought.  And bam!

Here’s a thing to know about traveling to Indonesia.  Your passport needs to expire no less than six months after your entry date.  The spouse’s expires in May.  So plans have been delayed and emergency passport renewal is underway.

So that’s a factual summation of what happened. The reason?  I stopped planning.  The excuse?  None.  Rationalizations?  Don’t even bother.  Any further explanation is usually just an attempt to fill up with words that empty feeling of just having behaved like a complete ass.

Whether in business or in life, all problems are like this.

Fix what is fixable and let go of the rest. Do better next time.

The lesson I had already learned, but ignored: a little planning goes a long way.

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